Marriage Counseling Articles for Los Gatos

Understanding the Narcissistic Personality from an Intrapsychic Perspective
We are hearing a lot about narcissistic people these days, but readers may not know narcissism is a personality disorder. What we know is people with narcissistic personalities were injured at a very young age and are not capable...

Kale – Greetings from a Superfood
Let me introduce myself: my name is Kale. I’m not shy, but all the attention I’ve gotten in the last few years can be overwhelming. One minute you’re out in your furrow waiting for a few people to notice you, and the next minute you’re all over the internet being both...

Three Strategies to Help You With Funk Days
A funk day is just a low space filled with negative contortion, A mindset manufacturing negative distortions All out of proportion to life’s daily misfortunes which can be taken lightly and built to good fortune Yes, a low is just a high waiting to blossom From...

Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say!!
Everyone knows what it feels like to be sad, mad, scared, excited, and joyful, right? Wrong! Most think they do, and that’s the problem. They THINK their emotions rather than FEEL them. This is a leading cause for relationship issues. People who are out of touch with...

You Can Understand Your Teenager: Five Techniques for Communicating at Home
Teens and college students are hurting. In addition to traditional stressors that have plagued teens for generations (dating, grades, substance abuse), today’s young people have the added anxieties about getting into (and paying for) college, finding a job, and adjusting to coming out of two years of isolation due to COVID-19. To top it off, they’re struggling with the increased costs of living that may be affecting their families or requiring them to live at home when they’d hoped to be living independently.

From Spending to Lending to Getting Out
Emerson had been dating Elizabeth for 9 years when he contacted me for relationship therapy. Emerson shared that he didn’t know how to say “no” and was concerned about his girlfriend using him. Over the course of two sessions, I learned that he was doing the...

Ten Simple Rules for Living with Mood Challenges
1. MAKE EXERCISE A HABIT FOR LIFE. Find something you like (or at least don’t hate) and commit to doing it for six weeks. Start where you are. Can’t run a mile? Walk a mile. Or a half mile. Too self-conscious to join a gym? Download a free beginner fitness app or...

How to Handle Angry, Volatile Clients in Your Practice
Almost every couple you work with has some degree of defensiveness or over-reactivity operating when they engage in a disagreement. This over-reactivity can range from mild, to moderate, to severe. In this article, we will focus on what you can do if you’re working...

YOGA for Youth, Optimism, Gratitude, and Attitude
The word “yoga” is derived from the Sanskrit root word “to yoke” or “to unite.” Yoga is intended to create a union of body, mind, and spirit. The practice of yoga originated in ancient India and is now widely practiced throughout the world. A growing number of...

Breathing To Promote Self-Healing
Most people rarely think about their own breathing, even though the average person takes around 22,000 breaths each day! However, breathing mindfully can have a major positive impact on your mood and your health. Your body and organs need proper oxygen intake in order...